Research and work on narcissists’ disguises and excuses

Research and work on narcissists’ disguises and excuses

​Narcissists criticize everything, including the other person's tone of voice, facial expression, personality, clothing, hairstyle, hobbies, food tastes, preferences, and interpersonal relationships. The act of pointing out hurts the other person's feelings, regardless of whether it is justified or not. Therefore, people with common sense criticize very carefully and carefully only when necessary. And when making a point, pay close attention to the other person's mood and expression.

But narcissists don't do that. They are even excited to point out something in the first place. So the narcissist examines each other's ins and outs through a refracted magnifying glass filled with negative emotions.

And at the end of the battle, based on the data accumulated over the years, the player begins to cheerfully embarrass the opponent. At this time, the other person's reaction is important. If the innocent partner is upset and having a hard time because of what the narcissist says, it stimulates the narcissist even more.

What the narcissist wants is for the other person to suffer. A healthy person gets upset when others say they are having a hard time because of him. There is only a difference in degree, but healthy people are morally concerned if the other person is hurt even when they have said what they need to say. But narcissists are the opposite. Narcissists are happy that others are shocked and doubt themselves. When the other person receives an emotional blow, the narcissist falls into the delusion that he or she has become something powerful. In fact, narcissists are people who break down more easily than anyone else. Narcissists who perceive the world only as a threatening space are overly wary of everyone they meet in that space. Therefore, in order to avoid falling off the edge every day, narcissists touch people who are unlikely to disadvantage them. Narcissists cannot distinguish between normal and abnormal. They don't realize that they are ugly because they lack common sense.

In fact, narcissists are very fearful. They are afraid of the world. But the world is made up of people. In other words, narcissists are afraid of people. That guy who bullies people is afraid of people? It may be surprising, but it is an obvious fact.

​Narcissists disguise their weaknesses in reverse. Even if the world doesn't care about narcissists, they struggle alone, desperately hoping that someone will be afraid of them. Will I look scared if I do this? Will I look scared if I do that? Narcissists worry about that. Interestingly, narcissists feel threatened by people who smile brightly. In reality, it is a warm situation, but the narcissist turns it into a threatening signal. So, in order to protect themselves, narcissists try to disparage such bright-hearted partners. Ultimately, the narcissist's goal is to temporarily allay their own fears by attacking others. Narcissists destroy human relationships because of vague and unrealistic fears. Therefore, you should not accept the narcissist's pranks from the beginning. When a narcissist says that his feelings were fine, what he actually means is that he was very upset at the time and dreamed of revenge because of it. A narcissist's words require a translator.

​No matter what the other person does, the narcissist criticizes anyway. And when the other person raises a problem or complains of suffering, the narcissist didn't know that it would be offended even though it was said with good intentions. The narcissist told: Although I am naturally cold, I make the excuse that I am not a bad person. Also, they distort the situation by saying that I said it because I misunderstood and was embarrassed at the time, or that you misremembered it. In this way, narcissists block comments as if they were trading cards, putting up an iron wall against others' honest raising of issues. All their excuses are lies.

​They come up with sophistry to rationalize their evil deeds. Then, when that sophistry is pointed out, another sophistry is brought up. ——> Therefore, if the other person turns out to be a narcissist, never react!!

They change the topic of conversation to glorify their own weaknesses. He frames the other person as the perpetrator even though he has done more wrong.

​Just as a thief evades the police through alleyways, a narcissist uses shallow tactics to get away for fear of being accused. So a conversation with a narcissist is like a Möbius strip.

​Solution: Believe in your worth, trust yourself and no longer be in a relationship with a narcissist.

​Example: Person A often verbally abuses people he does not like. Without hesitation, he spewed out comments like : he was like a child, had limited understanding, and was of a low standard. He had the attitude of spitting on the street. People were perplexed, but he did not give him any special advice. Instead, he either walked away without a word or got very angry and cut off. (good response)

​Narcissists are sensitive. They are anxious that others may have bad intentions toward them hidden in their words and actions. So he observes our words and actions from a paranoid perspective. As a result, all our words and actions are interpreted negatively. So in the end he gives everyone a handshake that builds a wall. He intentionally picks a fight with his opponent. Then, watch the reactions and divide them into less strong enemies and more powerful enemies. He then challenges each person to a customized fight. When they lose the next fight, they go looking for another scapegoat. This is why you should not unilaterally lose to a narcissist. His purpose is not to get along with us. He does not want harmony and peace. He just wants to determine rank. After being selected as a scapegoat, the narcissist torments him meanly and cruelly. If you gently and gently try to persuade the bully to stop, the narcissist will not listen to you. He will resist. The scapegoat will interpret the other side of the narcissist and laugh at the very definition of sin. Ultimately, we either have to completely ignore the narcissist or hurt his ego. However, the world is an open space where you can often meet people like this. In other words, it is an experience that anyone can experience. Fortunately, although we do meet energy vampires like this, we often meet good people. Life has both good and bad sides. It seemed like a bad thing to me, but there were also moments when it worked for the better. Sometimes good things also have a bad effect on me. Life is all about knowing and not knowing, so there are some things that are difficult to judge as good or bad.

​If you often feel depressed and shabby when you meet that person, be suspicious. That person may be a narcissist.

Your mood is more important than you think. Mood serves as an important signal to know the situation I am currently in. Always be alert to your emotions. The way I feel is an important clue to identifying a narcissist.

​Narcissists love criticism, but they have a hard time receiving even the slightest criticism. So, for a narcissist, everyday life is not everyday life; it is a battlefield covered with shock and fear.