Spring! The shorter the season, the more brilliant and beautiful it is.There is always something to look forward to when spring comes. They are beautiful tulips blooming from 50 bulbs given to me by my friendly next door neighbor, Michelle. My husband buried these tulips, spaced 30 centimeters apart, deep in the freezing ground before early spring. And ever since he planted these tulips, my garden has been a beautiful sight every spring. Our tulips come in a sort of shapes and come in a variety of colors including red, pink, white and yellow. It's so beautiful that joggers and walkers passing by my house stop and look at it. Every spring, the tulips given by Michelle bring great joy to many visitors and passers-by. I sometimes think that our tulips are more beautiful and impressive than the tulips in the tulip parks I visited in the Netherlands. This is what Michelle said when she gave me this tulip bulb. “Anna, the shape of the bulb is the same, but when it turns into a flower, no one can tell what color or shape it will be.” Since I heard that, I waited for the flower to bloom with strong curiosity and anticipation. And I quickly learned that Michelle was right. Tulips must be buried deep in frozen ground before spring arrives. The firmer the ground, the fresher and more beautiful the tulips that come up through the ground. Before I knew it, I was looking forward to spring. Spring is a dazzling season. In a world where everything seems to have frozen and disappeared, spring seems to be trying to show the beauty and warm that never disappear. In the spring, the turtles in the pond on campus where I always walk dry in the warm spring sunlight. Birds sing in unison with various sounds and the fish in the pond wake up. Spring is clearly a wizard who announces the birth of new life and wakes up everything dead in the world. In the spring, I always take pictures of the cherry blossoms on campus while I walk. It's the same color and shape, but the feeling is different every year. When I feel the spring breeze and the warm spring sunlight, the gloomy darkness in my heart seems to be lifted. So when spring comes, I become diligent without even realizing it. I clean for no reason and go for walks often. I frequently open the window and become busy taking in the beauty around me. And there is a reason for this busyness. That's because this beautiful and brilliant spring is so short. The beautiful tulips that make my heart flutter will one day drop their brilliant petals to the ground. And I'll have to wait until next spring. Because of this brilliant and short time, the wait will be deep and earnest. As I turned 50, another change occurred to me. It means that I no longer struggle to understand what I used to struggle to tolerate. In the past, I understood that people said hurtful and harsh words to me. I tried to understand people who lacked metacognition, were inconsiderate, and had no manners, tried to understand their situation, understand their environment, and treated them leniently even when they were like that. But at some point, I realized that all of that was pointless.
The most important thing is the present I live in, and the most precious thing is me and my loved ones. When I encounter an energy vampire who steals my heart away from enjoying the beautiful cherry blossoms, I no longer try to understand or tolerate them like I used to, but I keep my distance from them. Because I realized how harmful it is to lose love for the nature and life around us. And every day, I try to maintain my routine of drawing, spending precious time with the beauty around me, talking with loved ones. I no longer put my energy into other things. And if possible, I will try to conserve my energy and draw as much as possible. And I know this is what I need to do. I have so many pictures to draw this year. First, I need to draw three strong images that come to mind. Once these paintings are completed, I will feature them again on this blog. I hope to present another new painting before this spring passes.
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Healing and self-care through paintingsKindness is considered one of the key elements of interaction, communication, relationship building, and culture, and has a positive impact in a variety of situations.
First, kind behavior induces positive interactions within society, reduces conflict, and helps maintain harmonious relationships. Kind people provide a sense of security to those around them and help reduce stress. Therefore, kindness has a positive effect on physical and mental health. Additionally, acts of kindness can give others confidence, and trust is essential for successful relationships and collaboration. Kind people have a positive impact on others and make them feel good, so kind people spread happiness to those around them. Kindness is a virtue that everyone needs and emphasizes. I also try to be kind to everyone. I like to share the pie with others, even if I lose a little. But I also feel depressed for days when I meet people who react differently to this kindness. When the other person is kind, instead of sharing this kindness and making it bigger, there are times when they abuse this and cross the line. There is no way the person showing kindness is unaware of this. So I try to be kinder to those who are kind to me. Because I know the pain when others cross the line and try to take advantage of kindness. And in fact, there are cases where people distort this kindness, accept and interpret it with their own twisted minds, and say hurtful things. “Life is not made up of any sacrifices or duties, but rather small things. A bright smile, kindness, small daily duties and habits are what open people’s hearts, protect happiness and bring happiness to life.” by Dr. Humphry Davy Research and work on narcissists’ disguises and excusesNarcissists criticize everything, including the other person's tone of voice, facial expression, personality, clothing, hairstyle, hobbies, food tastes, preferences, and interpersonal relationships. The act of pointing out hurts the other person's feelings, regardless of whether it is justified or not. Therefore, people with common sense criticize very carefully and carefully only when necessary. And when making a point, pay close attention to the other person's mood and expression.
But narcissists don't do that. They are even excited to point out something in the first place. So the narcissist examines each other's ins and outs through a refracted magnifying glass filled with negative emotions. And at the end of the battle, based on the data accumulated over the years, the player begins to cheerfully embarrass the opponent. At this time, the other person's reaction is important. If the innocent partner is upset and having a hard time because of what the narcissist says, it stimulates the narcissist even more. What the narcissist wants is for the other person to suffer. A healthy person gets upset when others say they are having a hard time because of him. There is only a difference in degree, but healthy people are morally concerned if the other person is hurt even when they have said what they need to say. But narcissists are the opposite. Narcissists are happy that others are shocked and doubt themselves. When the other person receives an emotional blow, the narcissist falls into the delusion that he or she has become something powerful. In fact, narcissists are people who break down more easily than anyone else. Narcissists who perceive the world only as a threatening space are overly wary of everyone they meet in that space. Therefore, in order to avoid falling off the edge every day, narcissists touch people who are unlikely to disadvantage them. Narcissists cannot distinguish between normal and abnormal. They don't realize that they are ugly because they lack common sense. In fact, narcissists are very fearful. They are afraid of the world. But the world is made up of people. In other words, narcissists are afraid of people. That guy who bullies people is afraid of people? It may be surprising, but it is an obvious fact. Narcissists disguise their weaknesses in reverse. Even if the world doesn't care about narcissists, they struggle alone, desperately hoping that someone will be afraid of them. Will I look scared if I do this? Will I look scared if I do that? Narcissists worry about that. Interestingly, narcissists feel threatened by people who smile brightly. In reality, it is a warm situation, but the narcissist turns it into a threatening signal. So, in order to protect themselves, narcissists try to disparage such bright-hearted partners. Ultimately, the narcissist's goal is to temporarily allay their own fears by attacking others. Narcissists destroy human relationships because of vague and unrealistic fears. Therefore, you should not accept the narcissist's pranks from the beginning. When a narcissist says that his feelings were fine, what he actually means is that he was very upset at the time and dreamed of revenge because of it. A narcissist's words require a translator. No matter what the other person does, the narcissist criticizes anyway. And when the other person raises a problem or complains of suffering, the narcissist didn't know that it would be offended even though it was said with good intentions. The narcissist told: Although I am naturally cold, I make the excuse that I am not a bad person. Also, they distort the situation by saying that I said it because I misunderstood and was embarrassed at the time, or that you misremembered it. In this way, narcissists block comments as if they were trading cards, putting up an iron wall against others' honest raising of issues. All their excuses are lies. They come up with sophistry to rationalize their evil deeds. Then, when that sophistry is pointed out, another sophistry is brought up. ——> Therefore, if the other person turns out to be a narcissist, never react!! They change the topic of conversation to glorify their own weaknesses. He frames the other person as the perpetrator even though he has done more wrong. Just as a thief evades the police through alleyways, a narcissist uses shallow tactics to get away for fear of being accused. So a conversation with a narcissist is like a Möbius strip. Solution: Believe in your worth, trust yourself and no longer be in a relationship with a narcissist. Example: Person A often verbally abuses people he does not like. Without hesitation, he spewed out comments like : he was like a child, had limited understanding, and was of a low standard. He had the attitude of spitting on the street. People were perplexed, but he did not give him any special advice. Instead, he either walked away without a word or got very angry and cut off. (good response) Narcissists are sensitive. They are anxious that others may have bad intentions toward them hidden in their words and actions. So he observes our words and actions from a paranoid perspective. As a result, all our words and actions are interpreted negatively. So in the end he gives everyone a handshake that builds a wall. He intentionally picks a fight with his opponent. Then, watch the reactions and divide them into less strong enemies and more powerful enemies. He then challenges each person to a customized fight. When they lose the next fight, they go looking for another scapegoat. This is why you should not unilaterally lose to a narcissist. His purpose is not to get along with us. He does not want harmony and peace. He just wants to determine rank. After being selected as a scapegoat, the narcissist torments him meanly and cruelly. If you gently and gently try to persuade the bully to stop, the narcissist will not listen to you. He will resist. The scapegoat will interpret the other side of the narcissist and laugh at the very definition of sin. Ultimately, we either have to completely ignore the narcissist or hurt his ego. However, the world is an open space where you can often meet people like this. In other words, it is an experience that anyone can experience. Fortunately, although we do meet energy vampires like this, we often meet good people. Life has both good and bad sides. It seemed like a bad thing to me, but there were also moments when it worked for the better. Sometimes good things also have a bad effect on me. Life is all about knowing and not knowing, so there are some things that are difficult to judge as good or bad. If you often feel depressed and shabby when you meet that person, be suspicious. That person may be a narcissist. Your mood is more important than you think. Mood serves as an important signal to know the situation I am currently in. Always be alert to your emotions. The way I feel is an important clue to identifying a narcissist. Narcissists love criticism, but they have a hard time receiving even the slightest criticism. So, for a narcissist, everyday life is not everyday life; it is a battlefield covered with shock and fear. Eclipse and my record so farFor several days, I have been dealing with an unfortunate and frustrating problem. Now, a lot has been sorted out and stabilized. It's been a while since I've posted a blog post again, and it feels as if time stopped and then passed by. Today, more than anything else, is the day of the solar eclipse. My family captured the moment of the eclipse and sent each other photos. There was an interesting story about an eclipse like this in a children's book I read as a child. The king who lived in a country without light had a dog steal the sun. The dog, upon receiving the king's command, takes a bite to take the sun. But it's too hot to get it. The video my son sent me captures this dynamic moment. It is very impressive that an action like a dog taking a bite of the hot sun and spitting it out because it was too hot was made into a children's book. This is also a liturgical fairy tale that has been handed down in Korea for a very long time. It is surprising that people in the old days also expressed the mystery and wonder of eclipses in this way. Looking at the mystery of a solar eclipse, what is happening in the sky seems more peaceful than what is happening on earth. I found out that this place where people should live with understanding, being understood, and communicating with each other through the word empathy, only spins and turns like a Möbius strip, and there is no true communication. I'd like to talk about this when I get a chance. Meanwhile I often saw the eyes of a girl whose face was filled with anger. I feel sorry for the heat radiating from Bonno's little eyes, which should shine beautifully and lovingly. And the angry energy in her little eyes was something I observed often as I looked at her closely. And I know kids who say they're scared of this little girl. I couldn't blog for a few days because of this problem. Now that my thoughts are in order, I just hope that the girl will quickly get over her anger and return to being the lovely girl she was at that age. And I hope that her friends who were hurt by her anger will also be healed of their fears and feel at ease. It is not good to harbor anger in her heart, like swallowing a hot sun and then spitting it out again. Because no one will be able to get that deep for the true relationship. I feel happy just to get out of this Möbius strip. But I keep thinking of the little girl who is trapped in that Möbius strip alone and has to repeat her anger. But everyone has the right to live in a different way even though it needs some education. I'm just getting out of that band and trying to draw again, organize my thoughts, and write. I know very well that people don't always think the same way as me. However, among the people I have met, even though they are living peacefully and have many beautiful memories, there are people who hide the idea that the other person will ignore them, be rude, and threaten them, and someday talk about their delusional thoughts. And because I don't have enough energy and time in my life to make people understand and convince them, I decided to get off the Möbius strip at some point. It is my solution to avoid useless conflict between relationships.
All we have to do is be thankful when we are thankful, be sorry when we are sorry, and share our hearts with empathy. No one is perfect in the world, and there are always conflicts and problems in life, so just having these two attitudes is enough to maintain a good, long-term relationship. But in some cases, there are people who must do whatever it takes to trap their opponents in their Mobius and ultimately make sure they are right. At times like these, I always find conversation difficult. And since people have the right to be trapped in their anxiety and torment themselves, I'm going to leave it alone. And when something like this happens, I always learn a life lesson. It's something I always feel, but I have to be careful with the 'words' I say, and I have to be careful and careful so that what I say doesn't hurt the other person. And without being involved in such conflicts anymore, I can go back to drawing and writing and living my life faithfully and happily with the people around me that I love. I know that it is difficult to have a conversation with people who see life as a battle between winning and losing. These people have some characteristics in common. They always say this. “Someday the truth will come out” But life is not a judge. We just need to find each other in big and small conflicts and become stronger like the ground hardens after the rain. Because winning or losing is not the issue. However, people who are desperate to win or lose do not listen to the other person's needs or feelings. He always has his excuses ready. When they start the engine to create this Möbius strip for the different conflict as a prey, I immediately notice it. Because thanks to painting, I was able to meet, experience, and talk to many people. In this respect, I feel that I value the medium of painting, where winning or losing is not important. I also challenge my students to compete, but I always tell them. It is not important whether you win or lose this competition, but the process of taking on the challenge is important. Isn’t this the same with human relationships? It's not about winning or losing, it's not about right or wrong, it's just about talking and finding out. And it's about empathizing. And if this doesn't work, all you have to do is stand alone. What artists should do in the age of artificial intelligence It is said that in the future, the boundary between AI drawings and hand drawings will become blurred, making discrimination difficult. Art is generally considered to be a unique creative activity that only humans can do. AI develops by constantly learning from vast amounts of information, namely big data. Just as people become smarter the more they study, AI also becomes more sophisticated as it learns and analyzes more information. Advanced AI can accurately fulfill human requests and produce excellent results. AI learning fields are becoming more diverse day by day. AI, which has learned and analyzed countless works of art and famous painters' styles and techniques, has reached a level where it can instantly create images tailored to the user's needs. Many people have vaguely thought that art will not be replaced by artificial intelligence, but the possibility of being mistaken has grown. The most necessary quality for artists living in the future will be ‘creativity’, which AI does not have anymore. We have heard about the importance of ‘creativity’ through many channels and are well aware of it. As an artist, I also know that in order to survive in the age of artificial intelligence, I need to work in areas that artificial intelligence cannot do. In some articles, I read that even though artificial intelligence has surpassed the abilities of artists by learning at an alarming rate, this is simply a technical aspect and the area of touching people is still far away. In this sense, not as an artist but as an art lover, I think that works of art should not be evaluated based on simple technique or technical aspects. In this sense, I feel like I have another competitor as an artist. Now artists have to fight against machines, not against other artists who draw well. Of course, art is not a competitive field where you have to beat someone. However, if the art market is limited and we understand that some parts of it are already being taken over by artificial intelligence, there will be less space for human artists. I asked ChatGPT the following questions. "How do artists survive in the age of artificial intelligence?" He answered. "Ultimately, while AI presents new challenges and disruptions to the traditional art world, it also offers unprecedented opportunities for creativity, innovation, and artistic expression. By embracing AI as a tool and cultivating their unique voice and perspective, artists can not only survive but thrive in the age of artificial intelligence." Just as we express our art world with paint or other mediums, artificial intelligence art can also be used as a medium. If you look at it this way, now anyone can become an artist, even those who were unable to use their imagination due to technological limitations. From this perspective, it feels positive that many people will become artists in the era of artificial intelligence. We and I live in a world of rapid technological change and innovation. No one can predict what direction it will take in the future or whether, as people say, mass layoffs will become a daily routine and humans will have no more place to stand. However, I believe that in order to get ahead of artificial intelligence, we need to have a stronger passion than them. In the end, I believe that passion will create art and that this will be the key to distinguishing between artificial intelligence and people. This is because artificial intelligence only answers questions asked by humans and cannot create solutions on its own with passion. Therefore, I feel that as an artist, I need to work more voluntarily and independently. Reference:
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